我应该从这个经历中学到什么？
当有人采取一种真正把你的世界颠倒过来的行动时，你会怎么做？在最初的愤怒和伤害有所缓解之后，你有没有想过要对自己诚实，并问自己一个更大的问题，“我应该从这个经历中学到什么？”
我知道，让那个伤害你的人感受到你所受的伤害要容易很多，但是，仅仅是也许，你是否在逃避那个经历呢？要想想理解我在说什么，我在说，你，只有你，必须对所发生的一切负责，因为你设计了你目前正在经历或将要经历的情景。那个伤害你的人，不管他的行为看上去有多残忍，实际上也许是你在精神世界里最好的朋友。当你在出生之前选择这个人生体验的时候，这个人举手，愿意帮助你经历这个你所选择的体验。
现在，他们也有以这个体验为中心的人生功课，但你们双方需要根据你们的行动来确定体验的程度。是的，会有其他人也被吸引到你们的体验中，因为他们也选择了参与这一学习经历。不过，每个人的行为决定了体验的深度。
如果你的情感伤害驱使你试图摧毁另一个个体，那么，对那个个体和所有相关的人造成的伤害都会加深。你的情绪真的掩盖了这个问题：“我应该从这种情况中学到什么？”被你亲近的人鼓动的原始情绪，虽然他们出于善意，实际上却为掩盖真实体验增加了能量。结果，你的情绪或其他人的情绪引导你远离你对自己的生活负责。
无论经历有多么痛苦，只有当你那个体验的情感中走出来时，你才能看到宇宙为你引领的下一步。只有当你意识到没有意外的时候，你才能轻而易举地前进，真正体验到宇宙为你准备的一切。这一切都是你的选择，你可以选择停留在伤害和复仇的情绪中，你也可以选择在这个体验中 – 无论多么痛苦 – 前进并茁壮成长。
艾伦·麦克洛伊
What Am I Supposed to Learn from This Experience?
What do you do when someone takes an action that literally turns your world upside down? After the initial anger and hurt somewhat subsides, have you thought about being truthful to yourself and ask the bigger question, “What am I supposed to learn from this experience?”
I know it is so much easier to try to make the other person hurt just as much as you hurt at the moment, but – just maybe – aren’t you really just running from the experience? To even contemplate what I am speaking about you have to take ownership of the reality that you – and you alone – put together the scenarios that you currently are experiencing or will experience in your lifetime. The person who instigates the action, no matter how cruel the action appears to be, may in fact be your best friend in the world of Spirit. When YOU chose this lesson to experience before you were born, this individual raised their hand and committed to step forward in the experience with you.
Now, they have lessons centered around the experience also, but you both get to determine the extent of the experience based on your actions going forward. And yes, there will be others that will be drawn into the experience with you because they also have chosen to be involved in this learning experience. But everyone’s actions determine the depths of the experience.
If your emotional hurt drives you to attempt to destroy the other individual, then the carnage inflicted on that individual and all those involved will cut much deeper. Emotions really mask the question of, “What am I supposed to be learning from this situation?” Raw emotions that are encouraged by individuals close to you, while well intentioned, actually add energy to the situation that masks the real experience. In the end, your emotions or those of others lead you away from taking responsibility for your life.
No matter how painful the experience, only when you move forward out of the emotions of the experience can you see the next step the universe is bringing your way. Only when you realize that there are no accidents can you easily move forward and truly experience what the universe has in-store for you. The choice is yours as always, you can stay stuck in the emotions of hurt and revenge, or move forward through the situation – no matter how painful – and flourish.
Alan McElroy