宽恕和自我宽恕
随着地球在提升振动，人类也在发生着巨大的变化和转变。作为灵魂，我们都选择了在这个时候化身，以利用这个机会，在努力从低我到高我的进化过程中获得灵魂成长。我们在这里打破相互争斗、战争、愤怒、仇恨、敌意和一切 “消极情绪”的循环，学会宽恕和忘记；学会全盘接受、尊重、宽容；学会无条件地彼此相爱，只有如此，我们才能拥有世界和平。愤怒和仇恨是目前造成世界上诸多问题的能量。因此，宽恕是人类世界应有的最重要和最必要的能量。
然而，由于人的自我，宽恕从来都不是一件容易做的事情。自我会固守储藏在我们灵魂记忆中曾经经历过的伤痛、创伤和不公，把愤怒、沮丧、敌意和仇恨带到我们的意识中，制造强烈的情感痛苦。当这种情况发生时，人因沉浸在愤怒和沮丧之中而很难有同情和宽恕之心。尽管我们的高我在努力促使我们学会宽恕并继续前进，我们的低我却想把刀插进伤害过我们的人身体，使我们继续保持愤怒和不宽恕。宽恕和继续前进需要极大的勇气和力量，因为真正的宽恕不仅仅是一种姿态或口头上说“我宽恕”，尽管有“宽恕”的意图是第一步，而且很重要。真正的宽恕是我们允许自己释放积累在内心深处的任何情绪和情感能量，并加以清除。只有当我们从自己的潜意识记忆中清除了这些堵塞的能量，只有这样，我们才能真正地宽恕，并在振动中前进。
你可能会问，“我怎么知道自己是否释放了这些能量呢？” 相信我，你会知道的。当你释放并消除了对某个人的愤怒或任何其他负面情绪时，你会注意到，无论那人对你说什么或做什么，你都不再有情绪反应。相反，你会发现自己很容易超脱，成为一个客观的观察者。此外，一旦你释放了能量并真正宽恕，你就会向更高的能量敞开心扉，这对你的生命成长大有益处。
在宽恕他人的过程中，最深刻和最具挑战性的一个方面是，我们迟早会对自己感到强烈的愤怒。如果我们认为宽恕他人不是一件容易的事情，那么宽恕自己的难度远远超出我们的想象力。从我自己的亲身经历以及我在做解读和咨询中所接触到的一些事例中，我了解到，当我们在释放与自己的痛苦和创伤有关情绪的过程中，我们迟早会感受到对自己的愤怒，甚至体验到对自己的仇恨。我们对自己为什么会允许这件事发生而感到愤怒；我们对自己做出的选择和决定感到愤怒；我们对自己的懦弱，没有勇气为自己辩护感到愤怒。此外，伴随着愤怒的还有自我憎恨、羞耻和内疚，这些让我们对自己更难宽恕和接受。
在我10岁左右的时候，我有过一次非常痛苦的经历。出于一颗天真无邪的心和天真无邪的想法，我在一位好朋友的允许下触摸了她的乳房，以安慰她不要为她发育良好的乳房感到尴尬。我很高兴能安慰她。然而，第二天，她和我的其他两个童年的朋友一起义正言辞地谴责我。我们住在同一个大院里，她们三个是我最好的，也是唯一的朋友。她们在从学校回家的路上拦住我，指责我“淫秽肮脏”，并不容我辩解就斩钉绝铁地断绝了与我的友谊。从那天起，我就再也没有机会和她们交谈和在一起玩了。她们的行为使我对自己深感羞愧和内疚。在那一天，我不仅失去了三个最好的朋友，而且把沉重的内疚和羞耻作为自己的秘密深深地埋藏在自己的心灵深处。直到2016年弥勒让我写一本关于我人生旅程的书，我才终于把这个秘密写出来。到那时，这个秘密在我心里已经深埋了52年！你们能想象在我的脉轮，尤其是底轮中因此而积累了多少堵塞能量吗？！这些堵塞的能量变成了一座冰山，卡在我的脉轮中。当我在释放这些能量的时候，它就像冰一样的寒冷！
几年前，我的指导灵建议我做一个自我宽恕的练习。在这个练习中，我被告知站在镜子前，直视我的眼睛，然后我对着镜子里我说：“婧，你很美丽，我爱你，也很感激你。”当我做这个练习，看着镜子里的自己时，我看到的只是一个丑陋、恶心、不可爱、不可饶恕的人。我真的感受到对自己的强烈憎恨，不可饶恕和不可爱，这使我觉得自己毫无价值，不值得被爱和被欣赏。结果，我无法继续做这个练习，只做了一天就停了下来。
我把这个自我宽恕的练习停了两年。两年后，由于太多的身体和健康问题，我感到自己被困住了。诸多的身体健康问题再次引导我进入用自我宽恕来进行深层的自我疗愈。这一次，经过两年的挣扎，我终于准备好了。我终于意识到自我宽恕是我在振动中前进的关键。这一次，当我在镜子前做自我宽恕的练习，开始对自己说：“婧，你很美丽，我爱你，感谢你是你。” 时，我开始哭泣，我哭的很深很痛，以释放我对自己深深的愤怒、仇恨、羞耻和内疚。这个练习使我在灵魂进化的旅程中向前迈进了一步。到今天为止，我仍然在做这个练习，我仍然需要这个练习。不过，我确实感觉轻松了很多，对自己也有了更多的同情和接受。
我们每个人或多或少都做了一些我们认为是不光彩的事情；我们每个人或多或少都犯过错误，做过“错误”的选择和决定；我们每个人或多或少都有过一些让我们不为之骄傲的事情。所有这些都是我们学习和体验的必要部分。我们基于当时的情况和自己的所知和状况而做出了这些选择和决定。我们既不能回去改变已经发生的一切，也不能做任何事情来使其回到事情发生之前的状态。为了继续生活，我们必须学会宽恕自己。如果不这样做的话，我们内心的情感会在体内阻塞溃烂，导致疾病、抑郁，停滞不前，阻止我们提升振动。只有通过宽恕，我们才能找到内心的安宁，在高振动和高意识中前进。
学习宽恕是我们在这里要学习和体验的主要人生功课之一。学会宽恕自己是一种更深刻的学习体验。“宽恕自己对自己的任何指责，向无条件的爱敞开自己的心扉。”“能够宽恕人是一个高度进化的灵魂，能够宽恕自己就是一个更伟大的灵魂。”— 选自弥勒语录应用程序
Forgiveness and Self Forgiveness
We are in the process of great change and transformation as the Earth Plane is raising its vibration. As a human soul, we have all chosen to incarnate on the Earth Plane at this time to take advantage of this opportunity in order to attain great soul growth as we strive towards evolving from the Lower Self to the Higher Self. We are here to break the cycle of fighting, war, anger, hatred, animosity, and all ‘negative emotions’, etc., and to learn to forgive and forget, to have total acceptance, respect, tolerance and to love unconditionally each other so that we can have world peace. Anger and hatred are the energy which is presently responsible for the troubles in the world. Thus, forgiveness is the most important and very necessary energy needed in the world.
Nevertheless, forgiveness is never an easy thing to do because of the Self part of us. It will hold onto our past hurt, wounds and injustices from our soul memory, which will bring anger, frustration, animosity and hatred into our consciousness to create intense emotional pain. When this happens, it is hard to have compassion and forgiveness, because we are immersed in our anger and frustration. The Self-part of us wants to dig the knife in to whoever has hurt us, and to keep us angry and upset although the Higher Self part of us is trying to force us to forgive and move on. It takes great courage and strength to forgive and move on because true forgiveness is not just a gesture or saying, “I forgive”, although having the intention of “deep inside us to come to the surface to be released and cleared. Only when we have cleared the energy from our subconscious memory, then, and only then, can we truly forgive and move forward. forgiving” is the first step and is important. True forgiveness is to allow whatever emotional energy we have deep inside us to come to the surface to be released and cleared. Only when we have cleared the energy from our subconscious memory, then, and only then, can we truly forgive and move forward.
You may ask, “How do I know if I have released the energy?” Believe me, you will know. When you have released and cleared the anger or any other negative emotions towards a certain person, you will notice that no matter what the other person says or does to you, you no longer have an emotional reaction, instead, you find that you can easily detach, and you become an objective observer. Furthermore, once you have released the energy and forgiven, you then open up to a higher energy and this can do so much good in your life.
One of the most profound and revealing aspects in the process of forgiving others is that we will sooner or later experience intense anger towards ourselves. If we think that forgiving others is not an easy task, forgiving ourselves is a far more difficult job than one can imagine. From my own first-hand experiences as well as the experiences of some of my clients, I have learned that as we are in the process of releasing emotions related to our pain and wounds, we come to the time that we become angry, and even experience hatred with ourselves. We are angry at ourselves for allowing this to happen to us; we are angry at ourselves for the choices and decisions we made; we are angry at ourselves for being weak and cowardly and not having the courage to stand up for ourselves. Furthermore, along with the anger is the self-hatred, shame and guilt, which is even worse for us to forgive and to accept.
When I was around age of 10, I had a very painful experience. Out of an innocent heart and naïve thinking, I touched a good friend’s breast with her permission in order to comfort her not being embarrassed by her well-developed breast. I was so happy to be able to comfort her. However, the following day I was condemned by my three childhood friends whom I considered my best and only friends. They called me ‘obscene and dirty’, and they broke off their friendship with me. From that day forward, I never had a chance to talk to them or play with them. Their action invoked deep shame and guilt in me. On that day, I not only lost three best friends, but also carried the heavy guilt and shame as a secret within me. I never told anyone until 2016 when Maitreya asked me to write a book about my life journey. By then, this 52-year-old secret was buried deep within me. Can you imagine how much energy I had repressed in my base chakra?! The energy had become an iceberg lodged within my base chakra. As I was releasing it, it came out as cold energy!
A few years ago, Spirit suggested to me that I do a self-forgiveness exercise. In this exercise, I was told to stand in front of the mirror and look directly into my eyes, then I was to say to myself in the mirror, “Jean, you are beautiful, I love you and appreciate you.” As I was doing the exercise, all I saw was an ugly, disgusting, unlovable and unforgivable person. Because I had so much anger towards myself, and I truly felt so much self-hatred, self-unforgiveness and a sense of being unlovable as if I didn’t deserve to be loved or appreciated. As a result, I could not go on with the exercise, and I stopped after only one day.
I delayed the Self-forgiveness process for two years. Two years later, due to so much physical and health issues, I felt trapped and stuck. It led me to deeper self-healing through self-forgiveness again. This time I was ready to do it after two years of struggle. I finally realized that this was a critical step for me to move forward in vibration. This time when I did the self-forgiveness exercise in front of the mirror, I started crying as I said to myself, “Jean, you are beautiful, I love you and thank you for what you are.” I cried and cried to release the deep anger, self-hatred, shame and guilt I had towards myself. This exercise has taken me further on my soul evolutionary journey. Up to today, I am still doing this exercise, and I still need this exercise. However, I do feel much lighter and have more compassion towards myself.
We all more or less have done something we have considered to be wrong; we all more or less have made mistakes, ‘wrong’ choices and decisions, we all more or less have something that we are not proud of. All these are a necessary part of our learning and experiencing. We made a choice in that moment with the information we had under the circumstances we were, and we did not know any better at the time. We cannot go back and change anything; nothing can be done to return it as to what it was. We must allow ourselves forgiveness in order to move on with our life. If not, the emotions we hold onto within ourselves will fester inside us, causing dis-ease, illness, depression and stopping us from raising our vibration. Only through forgiveness, can we find peace within and be able to move forward in vibration and in higher consciousness.
Learning forgiveness is one of the major life lessons we are here to learn and to experience. Learning to forgive ourselves is an even more profound learning experience. “Forgive yourselves for anything you have persecuted yourself for and open up to unconditional love.” “It is a very highly evolved soul who can forgive another, but an even bigger soul who can forgive oneself.” – Maitreya from Maitreya Quotes App